A Raw Heart
"Stop complaining! Be thankful!" My words were short and harsh to Vitali. I was annoyed with his whiny voice and constant complaining. There are two roads I can take after I talk to my children like this.
The first road is pride. It sounds like this: "I'm the mom. Even if I make a mistake, I don't have to apologize. I don't feel like talking about my weaknesses right now."
It's hard to become a better mom when I'm thinking like this. If I'm not teachable I will never grow. The longer I head down this road, the sooner my children will lose respect for me. I will slowly lose a voice in their life.
The second road is humility. I can be humble and recognize that I make mistakes. I can talk to my kids about my mistakes, and ask them to forgive me. I mean, come on—who am I kidding? My children see the worst sides of me, do I really think I can hide it?
If I'm not honest about my faults, I'm setting the expectation for my children to be perfect. And God knows they are not perfect.
If I hide my mistakes from my children, I am setting them up for failure. I am communicating that my outward appearance is more important to me than asking for forgiveness.
So I have to ask myself: is it more important to feed my pride or nurture a relationship with my son? And I'll ask you: is it more important to protect your image, or to experience freedom as you begin again, with honesty and a raw heart, pursuing your grown daughter.
We fall. The Lord picks us up. Our children fall, and they need to know...They need to see that the Lord can pick them back up.